with Jes, Founder, Empowered ABA
Hear Me the First Time
How to give directions your child can actually follow.
Most “not listening” comes down to how a direction is given and what happens next — which is great news, because both can change. This guide shows you how to give clear, kind directions, follow through without a power struggle, and build cooperation that lasts.
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“If you've said it ten times, the problem usually isn't your child's ears.”
What's inside
The five-second direction: how to give one instruction that lands
Why questions, distance and long explanations backfire
Follow-through without a fight, from a little help to more help
Momentum: using easy yeses to make the harder ask easier
First–then, real choices, and making cooperation pay off
The picture story “I Can Hear It the First Time,” plus practice games
A 14-day plan, a practice tracker and a one-page fridge card
This guide is for you if…
- You repeat yourself all day and end up raising your voice
- Simple things — shoes, bath, coming to the table — turn into standoffs
- Your child seems to listen to everyone but you (or no one at all)
- You want cooperation built on connection, not threats
An honest approach
- This guide doesn't tell you to be stricter or louder. It shows you how to give a direction that lands, and how to follow through calmly — connection first, cooperation second.
- This guide is educational and is not a substitute for individualized assessment, medical care, or therapy.
From families
You're not doing this alone.
Shared anonymously, with permission.
These resources feel like they were written for my actual family — not a textbook family. I keep coming back to them.
For the first time, someone explained the why behind my child's hardest moments instead of just handing me a chart. We are both less overwhelmed.
Small steps, real strategies, zero judgment. That combination is rare.
Say it once — and know what to do if it doesn't happen.
Clear, kind directions and calm follow-through, so the repeat-warn-yell cycle ends and cooperation starts feeling worth it for your child.
- Say it once — and know what to do if it doesn't happen
- Stop the repeat-warn-yell cycle
- Build everyday cooperation your child feels good about
Instant access · $19
This guide is educational and is not a substitute for individualized assessment, medical care, or therapy.