with Jes, Founder, Empowered ABA

Big Feelings, Clear Words

How emotion coaching helps your child communicate, calm, and cooperate.

A step-by-step guide to emotion coaching, blending Gottman's research with practical ABA strategies — so your child learns to name big feelings, calm down, and cooperate, without you having to be perfect.

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“All feelings are allowed. Not all behaviors are.”

Your child can feel furious. They still cannot hit. You help with both.

What's inside

The 5 coaching steps — Notice, Connect, Name it, Hold the limit, Help and teach — with scripts for each
Words that help, words that hurt — simple swaps for the phrases you already say
Coaching by age: toddlers (2–3) and preschoolers (4–5), so you know what to teach next
A feelings vocabulary builder, plus a printable feelings chart
Real-life scripts for the park, screen time, siblings, mealtime, and bedtime
Adaptations for children who communicate differently, including AAC and autism
Your 7-day starter plan and a coaching log to track what's working

An honest approach

  • Coaching isn't giving in. Naming a feeling never changes the answer — the limit stays the same, every time, said the same kind way.
  • It isn't a long talk. In the hard moment, fewer words work better — the deeper conversation comes later, when everyone is calm.
  • This guide is educational and is not a substitute for individualized medical, psychological, or behavioral advice.

From families

You're not doing this alone.

Shared anonymously, with permission.

These resources feel like they were written for my actual family — not a textbook family. I keep coming back to them.
Mom of a 3-year-old
For the first time, someone explained the why behind my child's hardest moments instead of just handing me a chart. We are both less overwhelmed.
Parent of a 5-year-old
Small steps, real strategies, zero judgment. That combination is rare.
Foster dad of a 4-year-old

You don't have to get it right every time.

Just the next moment you name a feeling, hold a limit with kindness, and help your child through it — that's the muscle this guide helps you build.

Get the Guide — $19

Instant access · $19

This guide is educational and is not a substitute for individualized medical, psychological, or behavioral advice.